Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Oh, the ache of a mama's heart when she can't shelter her child from all of life's bumps and bruises.
When your child is a wee one, you can give yourself the illusion of control. You can make sure that solid foods are introduced exactly how and when you feel comfortable, you can child-proof the house to protect against accidents, you can research and select the very safest car seat. All of these things create the illusion that we can actually protect our children. But there comes a time when our children will go out into the world and gain their own experiences -- and that is a good thing. But oh, the shock of realizing how many things I cannot control:
I cannot make that boy like her back.
I cannot make her math teacher more fair.
I cannot give that bully a stern talking-to.
I cannot convince her director to give her a bigger part, even though she's the most experienced and accomplished Shakespearean actor in that whole darn school and what are you thinking giving her of all people five measly lines when she's been looking forward to this play all year and have you even seen what this kid can do on a stage are you blind???
There are some ways in which I have to let go, I have to let her out into the world to learn for herself how to handle disappointment and unfairness. And at the same time, I can hold on tight... by holding her hand as she vents her frustration, and making sure she knows that I will never let go.
This post is part of the Moms' 30-Minute Blog Challenge, hosted by Jamie over at SteadyMom.